Erotology
Genuine sexual advice from the UK’s leading expert!
Chris Thomlinson
All things considered, when it comes to erotic sexual love, more people, couples and singles, need competent advice than care to admit or realise.
Thankfully, as the UK’s leading expert on Erotic, sexual love, I have, in one way or another, been providing dependable advice to thousands of people for over a decade, chiefly through my hobby as the UK’s most prolific author of Genuine Erotica (over 7 books and 600 stories published).
To understand a woman’s full potential, that of being multiple orgasmic, something that, according to Susan Quilliam’s book ‘Women on sex’, eludes as many as 90% of UK women, you may wish to read these two articles:
1) The truth about female sexuality, how women are superior to men!
2) The truth about the female orgasm.
The problem, and it’s very much a major one, with the advice dispensed in newspapers and, predominantly, women’s magazines, is, those giving the advice are hampered by one, more or all of the following:
School’s, and, with it, children’s education pertaining to sex when responding to adults.
The practice of perceiving ‘foreplay’ as a stroke in golf (‘FOUR!’), while it’s the very thing, the core as it’s referred to, a woman’s body was designed for.
Failure to observe the fact that the aim of sexual intimacy is that of giving women pleasure; meeting her needs first.
What you will find herein, and with the most recent advice topmost and first, is a more practical response to the misinformation etc that appears elsewhere: newspapers and magazines.
Women and Porn!
Hard to believe, especially in this day and age, having the British Government’s lockdown restrictions on social gathering (clubs, more so pubs and wine bars) long since ended, that women, moreover, single women, are complaining about their partner’s interest in what is commonly referred to as PORN!
What did these women turn to for sexual relief during those long periods of isolation? Is the fundamental (basic) question that amateur advisors fail to address, while ignoring, disregarding the fact that well-known expert Dr Miriam Stoppard mentioned in one of her books that women enjoy what is commonly referred to as PORN eight times more than men!
One complaint from women is: “Don’t I turn you on anymore?” Which is another way of saying, aren’t ‘I’ pornographic enough for you? And there, once again, is the core fact that so-called experts fail to address. By definition, women are pornographic, sexually arousing to heterosexual men. Not only that, but what is commonly referred to as PORN, is men and women engaged in sexual intimacy. Therefore, the act of sexual intimacy, in particular, that which has maintained the existence of the human race since Adam and Eve, is what is commonly referred to as porn.
Discover more fascinating facts on this in the TRUTH’s exposé:
‘The TRUTH about PORN!’ You will be both surprised and well-informed on the subject after reading it.
Featured inside and trailed on the front page of today’s (18 October 2021) Daily Mail, is the revealing article about ‘women who say No, no, no to sex…even with their other halves.’
According to the Mail’s article, these women, despite being married or divorced, have ‘Never felt any sort of attraction or sexual desire towards anyone, man or woman.’
That, it has to be said, sums up, in a nutshell (one sentence), all that is clearly wrong with sex education at English schools since before October 8 1993, over 27 years ago (see the TRUTH’s exposé: ‘The TRUTH about female sexuality’ for more).
As mentioned in the article, sex education educates boys, later men, to treat women as a substitute for their flexible masturbatory hand, by overlooking, entirely, the need for foreplay, the like of which a woman’s body is and was designed for by our creator.
It’s not, therefore, a matter of attraction or sexual desire, instead, it’s a matter of doing what comes naturally for millions of others, something explained in the TRUTH’s article: ‘The TRUTH about the female orgasm’.
Unfortunately, these women, along with millions of others, were let down by the hundreds of MP’s, while being betrayed by the scores of women MP’s, who were present on that fateful day for female sexuality, October 8 1993.
Lasting ability:
The so-called ‘advisors’ help for this particular problem, serves to underline their inadequacy along with a lack of knowledge.
From the title I’ve given the subject, you’ll rightly conclude it relates to the lasting ability of men; in particular, the one who put himself in the hands (for want of a better word) of the advisors.
The reply from one of them pointed out that, while porn studs can (seemingly) perform for 30+ minutes, the average male lasts about 10 minutes.
That time scale tends to apply if he is only interested in his own needs while neglecting those of his partner. That said, some men can climax more than once, while I know, for a fact, that some men can climax several times.
If you’ve read my article: ‘The Truth about the female orgasm’, you’ll know that the woman’s pleasure is what sexual intimacy is all about. Sadly, as mentioned in the introduction to this article, the advisors who gave that advice adhere to the ‘basic mechanics of sex’ as taught at British schools since before October 1993.
A man can last for as much as an hour. It’s all a question of how he goes about it.
With his partner in a post-orgasmic state as a result of him using his mouth, lips, tongue and fingers to make her so, her orgasms flow freely with penetrative sex. Each orgasm presents an opportunity for him to take a break and change position – variety being the spice of life. Moreover, it’s an opportunity, once she’s composed herself, for him to pleasure her with some more well-appreciated oral sex.
See ‘Premature male climax’ below for more.
First date intimacy:
In advising a woman, one who, having signed up to on-line dating a year ago during the lockdown, the so called sexperts failed to realise and acknowledge that the woman, from what she described, was sexually naive, while she’s not alone.
As mentioned in this magazine’s article, ‘The truth about female sexuality’ a woman’s sexuality is superior to a man’s. That said, 84% of UK women want and expect men to initiate sex compared to just 14% of European women east of the UK (research findings relate to Europe before the integration of former Soviet Union states). Oddly enough, that was the thing she found men were at fault over; wanting to initiate the possibility of sex with a ‘kiss’.
Women have had and continue to have their sexual superiority denied to them and that very fact covered up, while it all starts as early as sex education at school. You could justifiably say women have been programmed to be men’s sex slaves, because that is what it amounts to, when the opposite is closer to the truth.
First and foremost, a woman’s body is designed for sexual pleasure. Little wonder, then, why the point of sexual intimacy, being that which the woman seeking help from the advisors categorically denied herself, is that of pleasuring women.
Additionally, two other points were noticed from what she said.
1) Why, to what purpose do women go on a date? I mention that as a reflection of the fact that 50% of the women who took part in the TV dating game show ‘Blind date’ were guaranteed an all expenses paid weekend holiday, mostly outside the UK.
2) The other alarming point was she found them, her dates, to be unattractive. This from a woman who, because of the lockdown, found herself turning to self-sexual relief, possibly with a sex toy if not and in addition to her fingers.
Women, in general, and not just those with the above mentioned dating problem, need to wake up to the resounding fact that men are instruments of their sexual pleasure, while a sex toy is devoid of foreplay, in particular, the type of foreplay that, according to one Cosmo’ magazine survey found, 84% of UK women wanted from their partner, while the foreplay itself is spontaneous, unexpected, yet welcome.
The importance of foreplay is best noted by the following finding from Susan Quilliam’s book ‘Women on sex’. 90% of UK women admitted to failing to reach climax/orgasm as a result of penetrative sex.
That, in turn, brings me onto the answer to a question that eludes some, most women, while the answer is plain and simple. The question: ‘What do women want?’ I’m talking in general and about their decisions.
The answer can be found in the following line from a Sherlock Holmes film, one said by Charlton Heston who played the English detective. ‘When you have eliminated the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be the truth’.
Therego, by ‘eliminating’ (dismissing) what you don’t want, ‘whatever remains’ is what you, in ‘truth’, want.
For singles, moreover, single women, the reality is ‘you don’t have to love someone 24/7 in order to be made love to’.
Ultimately, it goes without saying that, if a woman’s prevailing sexual pleasure is as fulfilling as it can be, multiple orgasms and from foreplay alone, she would be the one initiating sexual intimacy with a touch, a kiss or something equally subtle, and for one plain and simple reason. Contrary to the assumptions of most of the successful female contestants on ‘Blind Date’ men are not, nor ever will be mind readers!
Premature male climax:
By far, the most unfulfilling aspect of ‘quickie sex’ (see previous below) is when a man loses control of his climax. This can lead to anxiety, and for both, while it need no be that way. I cannot stress this enough, but a woman needs to be post-orgasmic before penetrative sex begins. Thereafter, her orgasms flow freely, which helps considerably.
First, though, if there is such a problem, the couple need to discuss it openly and not directly after sex. That is because, while women have a tendency to be more open after sex, men, especially with this type of topic, can feel inadequate, which, in turn can lead to anxiety.
The answer to the problem, although a simple one, may take several sessions of intimacy to bring it under control. Realizing the aim, that of forestalling the man’s climax, is core. Only he knows when he’s getting close to his climax and so it’s a straightforward matter of him slowing down and withdrawing, again, slowly, so there’s no hair trigger reaction. While the sensitivity to climax abates, he can satisfy his partner or lover with more foreplay, even bring her to orgasm, continuing with a different position.
Here is a tip. When a woman climaxes, she’s prone to draw or have her legs drawn together. To reduce the sensitivity that could trigger a man’s climax, he could do well to open her legs fully.
Quickie sex:
Although common amongst couples, since 84% of UK women expect men to initiate sex, it can, more often than not, leave the woman unsatisfied. Among singles, however, it can come as a result of a heated moment at work between two colleagues, primarily from the woman going without the normal amount of sex she would get from a relationship. That said, it may still leave her unsatisfied, her thirst unquenched. So, on the whole, women are multi-orgasmic. They need to be brought to a height of sexual arousal, tipped over the edge into orgasm, something that comes from foreplay directed at the woman. Just ask the 84% of women who took part in a Cosmopolitan magazine survey.
Footnote:
As with every article and exposé page of this internet news magazine, the TRUTH’s e-mail address appears at the bottom. That said, and for obvious reason (volume of response), the purpose of this article is to provide genuine advice in contrast to bad advice; therefore, please do not e-mail the TRUTH with a request for advice.
Thank you for understanding, while you may just find the answer in one or more of these:
The truth about the lies about porn!
The truth about the female orgasm, which includes a link to another article the Rudiments of foreplay!
The truth about female Sexuality!
Are men and women really from different planets?
